Okay, so this is going to sound horrifically naive. But I am dead serious here.
I don’t get the whole donor embryo thing. Here’s how it is in my head — or how I thought it was going to work out.
You see, we did an IVF cycle — and it was canceled, which sucked, but for the sake of argument, let’s say it went swimmingly and we got 14 good fertilized embies.
Under no circumstances were more than two of those going back into me. In which case — we would either have to freeze the dozen leftover or choose to disgard them.
By this point, we knew we were going to be moving overseas, so we weren’t going to freeze them. It doesn’t really matter how you get to this part of the equation, just go with me here.
A dozen happy embies ready to be discarded.
Why would someone have to freeze them in order to donate them? Why couldn’t someone in need of an embryo just cycle along with the rest of the folks in the clinic and take a spare when the time presented it? I know that some women are very picky about the genetic material going in, but for the rest that really just want a baby and cannot afford IVF (or for whom it would not work), why not just transfer a couple fresh ones in when you do mine?
Couldn’t you just have someone take the same drugs a surrogate gets and then have her pick up a few spare embies?
I know the answer is probably “It’s not that easy…” but could someone please explain why?
Cause I’ll tell you right now — if I had to pick between some discarded embies and adoption, I would totally go the discard route.