Had a talk with the nurse today. I hope I’m able to convey her kindness below.
Issue: Having three separate appointments in the next week. Can we please condense at least a couple of them?
Answer: No. Which means we’ll have to drive into Pittsburgh on a Yom Tov. We have already spoken to a reliable Rav who says it’s alright given that we haven’t had our orthodox conversion yet and it’s for an important medical issue.
Issue: Can’t keep anything down (okay, can’t keep most things down) presumably due to BCPs (Nortrel – anyone ever heard of them? They’re a new type of pill that combines hormones with syrup of ipecac).
Answer: Tough shit. Try taking them with food (thanks, I was jackass). Or try taking them before you go to bed (thanks, tried to do that too). You said you wanted to lose weight, didn’t you? (I’m down nine pounds in less than a week) If you can’t take the BCPs you can adopt.
And no, I’m not exaggerating that. She actually told me to adopt.
My doctor and nurses are a lot of things. Qualified. Experienced. And according to the CDC, exceptionally good at what they do — especially since they do not turn away couples because they might be less likely to conceive.
And then there’s what they’re not: Kind, understanding, human beings. Patient. Blessed with a good bedside manner.
I’m getting treated like shit. The sad part is, I won’t mind it a bit if it gets me pregnant.
Meanwhile, I’ve turned my emotional care over to Dr. Alice Domar by way of her “Conquering Infertility” book.
Anyone else read it? So far so good. If nothing else, I’ve already found a litany of aspects that describe my situation:
Wife is approx. one year ahead of husband mentally when it comes to treating infertility.
Husband does not understand (or appear to care) about medical details or risk factors.
And so on. And I’m also thinking of looking into some alternative therapies to go with this cycle.
Acupuncture, yoga, meditation, etc. Anyone got any suggestions for what helped them to deal with stress (’cause cycle or not, I could use a bit of help in this department).
P.S. — the cycle is still very much game on.